One of the things I wish I did more is travel. So the majority of my vacations are to visit family. Sure, I get out to Vegas or like in August I went to San Diego, but I feel guilty if I go on a trip without my kids. I usually tell them I will be out of town, so that they don't wonder why I am not at the house. I know I need my adult fun.
I have never been to Europe. I have only taken a part day trek to Mexico when I was in high school. For some reason I kind of have this feeling like I don't deserve a nice vacation. I am not one to go somewhere alone. I applaud my friends that can do that, but it would just make me feel out of place. Not on an adventure, which is what I know I would feel like if I went on with someone.
I have used the excuse of not being able to afford a nice trip like this. This isn't really true. I could do it financially if I really wanted to. I just avoid putting large charges on my credit card if at all possible.
The lady I went out with last week before my Michigan trip is now in Germany. She is a chef at a very posh hotel here in Colorado Springs, so she is there on a business trip. But I know she is going to make an adventure of it. She is definitely that type. I admire that. Is there a gene I am missing? I know that one of my inhibitions around this is because I wouldn't know the local language, but people do this all the time.
A friend of mine at work has been really hard on me lately because I am not outgoing enough. He slammed me because I meet women I date on-line instead of just going up to someone in the grocery store or where ever, and asking them for their number. Sometimes I think its easy for him to say these things because he is married. But then I see how women react to him all the time and I know I not doing it right.
For me its not about "hooking up". I do want to find someone that could build into a serious relationship. It's not like I can't talk to women. I do, and sometimes at very random locations. I just don't seem to have the balls to ask for their number. I think the last time I did that was 2 weeks after my ex left. It landed me a date with an extremely attractive woman, but ended badly because she was a HEAVY drinker and a party princess.
Maybe the on-line thing is just too easy to hide behind. I guess I need to get out of my safe zone... for both the dating and the travelling.
5 comments:
You and I are a lot alike. I'm trying to be more spontaneous too.
You have much to offer and I know the right person is out there for you.
The traveling alone thing is hard at best but I have friends who swear that it's the best way to go. Let me know how that works out for you.
Yep, it's tough being single out there. Way worse for men though, and I know it. Good luck with it... I know it'll work out perfectly for you in the end.
this may sound really trite or naive, but i honestly believe that when the time is right, or the situation (or woman) is right, you will do exactly what you need to do.
because you're NOT just looking for a hook-up. and because you have much to offer the right woman.
as for traveling, i hear ya there. that was something that was sorely lacking in my life, post-divorce... because it's hard to travel solo, especially for women. i also lacked financial resources.
find a friend who you think you could stand to travel with. or go on a trip that involves some activity you like, because you're likely to meet like-minded people.
or just say fuck it, and go solo! it can be fun. i never thought i'd say that, and it's not my preference, but i've done it and i'm glad i did.
(wow, that was a long reply. sorry!)
I'm not family! And I live in an upn coming resort town... and we all speak English here... uhh course some of us sound like Boomhower from uhh that show lol .. Over the hill! thats it... But uhh... We could ride the train, another month n we could ski, go to the casino, umm.. go drink wine... uhh eat... Hike the caves.. All that cool vaca stuff... ;)
I'll even hang out in the Jay C, produce section of course n you can come and ask me how I choose my cucumbers!
You kill me, C... BTW, I am a good judge of produce. Let's go shopping.
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